So...someone said 'Life is too short to hide your feelings. Don’t be afraid to say what you feel.. don’t hide.. happy or sad. Share! If a person can’t be with you in your sadness, they don’t deserve to be with you in your happiness too!'
I sat and thought about this one.
Happiness is to be shared. Joy is to be spread. Smiles on faces make everything better. There is inherent happiness in seeing a smile on a person's face. Smiles are contagious... same as yawns :)
Sharing is caring - i get that too.
But, sharing the good things in life. Share moments of joy, not sorrow. Share something, anything which is good. Which breeds good in return.
Nothing ever comes out of sharing sorrow, unhappiness, despair...
And here, I think, it's important to make a distinction between troubles and sorrows.
Troubles are temporary and pass. They are like the soap bubbles which will float away or burst, in a short period of time.
Troubles need solutions to get past them and to overcome them. Troubles should be discussed and addressed. Having extra minds to solve the problem at hand, helps...always.
Sorrows are life changing events which touch your heart and stay with you...forever.
What's the point of telling anyone about them ? They can't change the fact. They can't elevate you out of it. They cannot wish it away. They cannot materially impact your state of mind. They can't really share or lessen the pain. They can't actually do anything about them...
So, why tell anyone your sorrows ? It'll just make them think and think and think some more...
There are people in our lives who will not hesitate to sit and listen to anything that is troubling us. They will even be there to listen to our sorrows. They will provide their perspective on how to deal with such life changing events. They will be there to hold your hand and to give you a hug and to comfort you in these times of distress.
But, they can only provide comfort, temporary relief maybe.
Troubles can be unburdened...sorrows you have to live with and deal on your own.
That is life.
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